It Was Time- She Let Go

A piece I wrote last year for the Elephant Journal. Letting go can be one of the hardest things to do, but sometimes holding on causes far more damage. Accept what is, let go of what was and have faith in what will be. “One of the most peaceful moments in life is when youContinue reading “It Was Time- She Let Go”

A Year in Review

Has this past year just flown by? Or is it just me?! Wow what a year it has been. A kaleidoscope of emotions. Monumental growth off the back of significant life changes, that just kept changing. Sometimes I reflect and I feel a wave of emotions, for where I was, where I am and whereContinue reading “A Year in Review”

Emotional Agility Vs Toxic Positivity

Toxic Positivity is forced, false positivity. It may sound innocuous on the surface, but when we share something difficult with someone and they insist that you turn it into a positive, what they are really saying is “my comfort is more important than your reality”- Dr Susan David. I have touched on toxic positivity andContinue reading “Emotional Agility Vs Toxic Positivity”

How do you define courage?

What good are my wings, if I lack the courage to fly? The dictionary definition of courage is the ability to do something that frightens one-bravery. And strength in the face of pain and grief. I’ve never thought of myself as particularly courageous and some people I deemed as courageous- have shown themselves as notContinue reading “How do you define courage?”

Grappling with Grief

“Grief never ends, but it changes. It’s a passage we must go through but it’s not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor is it a lack of faith…It is the price of love”. The definition of grief is the response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional responseContinue reading “Grappling with Grief”

The Unf*ckening

Most of us have been there at some point in our lives. When we feel we are caught in the cycle of pain, hurt, fear, shame, heartbreak-when we are in the midst of the f*ckening. It’s a terrible place to be stuck and it takes brutal honesty and bloody hard inner work to begin toContinue reading “The Unf*ckening”

Lies, Rug-Sweeping and Denial- The Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms of Negative Emotions

I was asked to write a piece on rug sweeping and lies. The lies people tell themselves and others. The avoidance of the truth that happens when there is shame, fear and pain. Rug sweeping happens when we don’t want to deal with the reality of a situation. Maybe we fear hurting someone we careContinue reading “Lies, Rug-Sweeping and Denial- The Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms of Negative Emotions”

Come At Me 2021

As I run, jump, skip, hurdle, dance, sing and laugh my way through the rest of the 2020 f*ckening- I get ready to embrace 2021 with excitement, anticipation and a few important things! Gratitude Gratitude for my tribe. Those amazing people who love me unconditionally in all my messiness and rawness. The one’s I speakContinue reading “Come At Me 2021”