How we try to solve childhood wounds through romantic relationships

I was with my husband for almost 30 years and since ending our marriage, I have been through a huge period of growth, learning, reflection and self realisation. Added to that my training, study and a specialisation in relationships, human behaviour and the games that people play- I have put together a post that IContinue reading “How we try to solve childhood wounds through romantic relationships”

Our Internal Seasons

Do you ever ponder the ebb and flow of life? We transition with the planets cycles. We follow rhythms, that ebb and flow, the phases of the moon, the changing of the seasons. Rhythms pulsate through our lives at many different levels. Our energies and bodies pulsate with our own unique circadian rhythms, as natureContinue reading “Our Internal Seasons”

I Am Enough

A piece I wrote last year for Elephant Journal. In a judgemental and conditioned society-we need to always remember we are enough. The only person that keeps you chained to a fence of self-doubt is yourself. Joyously happy or despairingly sad—I am enough Bouncing with energy or listlessly fatigued—I am enough Ramblingly talkative or unusuallyContinue reading “I Am Enough”

Grappling with Grief

“Grief never ends, but it changes. It’s a passage we must go through but it’s not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor is it a lack of faith…It is the price of love”. The definition of grief is the response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional responseContinue reading “Grappling with Grief”

The Unf*ckening

Most of us have been there at some point in our lives. When we feel we are caught in the cycle of pain, hurt, fear, shame, heartbreak-when we are in the midst of the f*ckening. It’s a terrible place to be stuck and it takes brutal honesty and bloody hard inner work to begin toContinue reading “The Unf*ckening”

The Power of Vulnerability

The dictionary meaning of vulnerability is where you open yourself up to being emotionally or physically wounded. Which is probably why far too many people mask/hide their vulnerability but to be our authentic and raw selves, we must be vulnerable. The importance of being vulnerable allows us to share those things which have hurt usContinue reading “The Power of Vulnerability”

Lies, Rug-Sweeping and Denial- The Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms of Negative Emotions

I was asked to write a piece on rug sweeping and lies. The lies people tell themselves and others. The avoidance of the truth that happens when there is shame, fear and pain. Rug sweeping happens when we don’t want to deal with the reality of a situation. Maybe we fear hurting someone we careContinue reading “Lies, Rug-Sweeping and Denial- The Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms of Negative Emotions”

Give Yourself the Gift of Love

What is it that causes so many of us to feel unloveable? Makes us think we don’t deserve love? Makes us chase love externally? We live in a society, where in many cases we have been conditioned to not love ourself. Many can probably remember their teenage years where jealousies, criticism and passive or aggressiveContinue reading “Give Yourself the Gift of Love”

The 2020 Awakening

2020 will be a year that will go down in history. In generations to come they will learn about the Pandemic of 2020. In schools all around the globe they will talk of COVID in ways, we learnt about the Spanish Flu and the Black Plague. They will learn that a virus can cause theContinue reading “The 2020 Awakening”