Lies, Rug-Sweeping and Denial- The Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms of Negative Emotions

I was asked to write a piece on rug sweeping and lies. The lies people tell themselves and others. The avoidance of the truth that happens when there is shame, fear and pain. Rug sweeping happens when we don’t want to deal with the reality of a situation. Maybe we fear hurting someone we careContinue reading “Lies, Rug-Sweeping and Denial- The Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms of Negative Emotions”

Give Yourself the Gift of Love

What is it that causes so many of us to feel unloveable? Makes us think we don’t deserve love? Makes us chase love externally? We live in a society, where in many cases we have been conditioned to not love ourself. Many can probably remember their teenage years where jealousies, criticism and passive or aggressiveContinue reading “Give Yourself the Gift of Love”

The 2020 Awakening

2020 will be a year that will go down in history. In generations to come they will learn about the Pandemic of 2020. In schools all around the globe they will talk of COVID in ways, we learnt about the Spanish Flu and the Black Plague. They will learn that a virus can cause theContinue reading “The 2020 Awakening”

The Drama Triangle-Are you caught in it?

The Karpman drama triangle is a social model of human interaction. The triangle maps a type of destructive interaction that can occur among people in conflict. It’s a tool therapists can use to bring awareness to a client. So what exactly is the triangle: The triangle has 3 roles- Rescuer, Persecutor and Victim. Whilst mostContinue reading “The Drama Triangle-Are you caught in it?”

2020 Sends One More Test

Was so close I could taste it. Thirteen more days until 2020 would seem behind us all. One week until Christmas. One day until I had my family Christmas. Two days until I flew out to tropical far North Queensland. I was organised. I was ready. I was pumped. But then it happened…. The F*ckening…Continue reading “2020 Sends One More Test”

My Way of Being

Madonna had it right all those years ago when she sang “we live in a material world”. So many people are focused on chasing riches, wealth, bigger homes, better cars and other material items. They do this in the hope of happiness but often when they get there they realise they still have voids. ChasingContinue reading “My Way of Being”

Come At Me 2021

As I run, jump, skip, hurdle, dance, sing and laugh my way through the rest of the 2020 f*ckening- I get ready to embrace 2021 with excitement, anticipation and a few important things! Gratitude Gratitude for my tribe. Those amazing people who love me unconditionally in all my messiness and rawness. The one’s I speakContinue reading “Come At Me 2021”

When Unhealed Wounds and Emotional Bypassing Makes Us Physically Sick-healing from within

In Western society most of us rely heavily on western medicine and have a faith and belief in our doctors, that they will diagnose and support us in healing. Many people happily take the prescription or even expect to be given a pill or some sort of medicine to “fix them”. In defence of theContinue reading “When Unhealed Wounds and Emotional Bypassing Makes Us Physically Sick-healing from within”