Emotional Agility Vs Toxic Positivity

Toxic Positivity is forced, false positivity. It may sound innocuous on the surface, but when we share something difficult with someone and they insist that you turn it into a positive, what they are really saying is “my comfort is more important than your reality”- Dr Susan David. I have touched on toxic positivity andContinue reading “Emotional Agility Vs Toxic Positivity”

The dilemma of making hard choices, letting go, embracing chaos and following our souls

Sometimes, we get lost, confused and lonely in the walls that we have built-walls we often do not realise we have even built, trying to protect our hearts and our little, fragile souls. We get too lost and invested, and sometimes the way out is practically invisible and nowhere to be seen. Also, we frequentlyContinue reading “The dilemma of making hard choices, letting go, embracing chaos and following our souls”

How do you define courage?

What good are my wings, if I lack the courage to fly? The dictionary definition of courage is the ability to do something that frightens one-bravery. And strength in the face of pain and grief. I’ve never thought of myself as particularly courageous and some people I deemed as courageous- have shown themselves as notContinue reading “How do you define courage?”

How we try to solve childhood wounds through romantic relationships

I was with my husband for almost 30 years and since ending our marriage, I have been through a huge period of growth, learning, reflection and self realisation. Added to that my training, study and a specialisation in relationships, human behaviour and the games that people play- I have put together a post that IContinue reading “How we try to solve childhood wounds through romantic relationships”

Our Internal Seasons

Do you ever ponder the ebb and flow of life? We transition with the planets cycles. We follow rhythms, that ebb and flow, the phases of the moon, the changing of the seasons. Rhythms pulsate through our lives at many different levels. Our energies and bodies pulsate with our own unique circadian rhythms, as natureContinue reading “Our Internal Seasons”

I Am Enough

A piece I wrote last year for Elephant Journal. In a judgemental and conditioned society-we need to always remember we are enough. The only person that keeps you chained to a fence of self-doubt is yourself. Joyously happy or despairingly sad—I am enough Bouncing with energy or listlessly fatigued—I am enough Ramblingly talkative or unusuallyContinue reading “I Am Enough”

Grappling with Grief

“Grief never ends, but it changes. It’s a passage we must go through but it’s not a place to stay. Grief is not a sign of weakness, nor is it a lack of faith…It is the price of love”. The definition of grief is the response to loss. Although conventionally focused on the emotional responseContinue reading “Grappling with Grief”

The Unf*ckening

Most of us have been there at some point in our lives. When we feel we are caught in the cycle of pain, hurt, fear, shame, heartbreak-when we are in the midst of the f*ckening. It’s a terrible place to be stuck and it takes brutal honesty and bloody hard inner work to begin toContinue reading “The Unf*ckening”

The Power of Vulnerability

The dictionary meaning of vulnerability is where you open yourself up to being emotionally or physically wounded. Which is probably why far too many people mask/hide their vulnerability but to be our authentic and raw selves, we must be vulnerable. The importance of being vulnerable allows us to share those things which have hurt usContinue reading “The Power of Vulnerability”