I have been reflecting a lot on kindness. The simple act of showing genuine care to another, without expecting anything in return. In a world where kindness can sometimes be overshadowed by greed, selfishness and rudeness. Or worse motivated to obtain some sort of benefit, showing a little kindness each and everyday is such a small gesture.
I have always considered myself to be kind. I have done this through generosity, through my willingness to help others and through my giving nature. Unfortunately , this has sometimes seen me taken advantage of or allowing myself to be taken for granted. My nature is that I continue to show kindness regardless.
Simple acts like smiling at a stranger. Helping an elderly person at the supermarket. Always being supportive to family and friends. And reaching out!! I always reach out to those I know are having a tough time, just so that they know someone cares. If I know someone is sick I’ll ask how I can help them. If someone has suffered a loss I’ll regularly message them to check in and I never forget a special occasion. All these things matter. They matter to me because I genuinely care and they matter to the people I’m being kind to.
In many ways society has lost its way. The advancements with technology and the overuse of social media has created a somewhat self-centred world. Ego is out of control and manipulation and the ability to be fake are significant issues. People can create a completely f*cking fabricated life. Sadly the cynical don’t trust kindness because they have been burnt by manipulation being masked as kindness. Those who use kindness to get something in return I would like to think are uncommon because I always want to see the best in people.
For me kindness is something I do because I want to brighten someone else’s day. I want those who are struggling, to know they have someone in their corner. I want the stranger on the street who might be hanging off a ledge to see that kindness does exist. I want the elderly lady in the supermarket to feel like she’s not alone. I want those who have faced loss and grief to feel a little more love and I want those celebrating something special to feel as though they matter.
My passion in life is to help people and I know that’s exactly what I should be doing. I have been doing it as a family member, friend and colleague for years but now I want to dedicate myself to it. How? With kindness of course. And with the credentials I’m working towards. Add my life experiences and complete authenticity and genuine care for other human beings and I know I have the right mix.
So how can we make the world a kinder place? We can start by eliminating the bullshit and by bullshit I mean be kind with no expectations. Be kind because you care. Reach out to people, again not because you need something or want something but because the other person means something to you. It really doesn’t take a lot of effort and the good that comes out of it cannot be measured.
When was the last time you did a genuinely nice gesture for someone for no other reason but to be kind? Mine was today. When you show real honest care and kindness, your world becomes a better place. You become a better person. I’m always both slightly amused and disappointed in those that use kindness as a tool to benefit themselves. Amused because at some point it will be discovered that it’s not real and disappointed because it hurts people.
Kindness is a gift that is becoming a little rare. Just be f*cking kind, it really is not that hard.
“Do things for people not because of who they are or what they will do in return. But because of who you are”.