It’s Not Goodbye. It’s See You Later

The words captured on this photo, written by my son tonight.

Today we lost a generous and kind human being. A husband; a father; a friend; a poppy. A man who enjoyed the simple things in life. An Aussie larrikin, who was always there to lend a hand.

Today at 2pm, my father in law took his last breath. Surrounded by his wife, son and one of his daughters. I’m so relieved he did not die alone.

He had been in hospital for the past 2 months, much of that time alone, as COVID restrictions stopped visitors from spending time with him. Fortunately my kids and I got to see him and spend what was sadly to be our farewell to him the day before Sydney went into lockdown. We will be forever grateful.

It’s been a tough time for my family. It’s the first loss of a grandparent for my kids. They have lost both my grandmothers, their great grandmothers but this definitely hits them hard. It’s also the first loss since their dad and I separated, so we are all just doing the best that we can.

My father in law loved a beer; loved a smoke and loved a punt. But most of all he loved his family and they loved him. He was a regular down the local RSL and the freezer was always packed from all the meat trays he had won.

He introduced the family to waterskiing, which would be a wonderful legacy. Weekends spent on the river; days in the water skiing and summer nights around a fire with music. My kids were skiing by the age of 3, and became lovers of the sport. He absolutely loved these times at the river.

I met my father in law when I was 20yrs old and he was always a kind and caring man. What you saw is what you got. There was no bullshit. And people loved him. He chatted to everyone, so a trip to get milk would take an hour as he would have a chat to everyone that crossed his path. Just a very loveable human.

So tonight our emotions swing from remembering this good man and crying for what we have lost. As we prepare for a funeral that his beloved grandkids will not be able to attend due to these restrictions. I too will pay my respects in other ways and we will all go through our own process of grief.

Thank you for your being in our life. I know you are now at peace. It’s not goodbye poppy, it’s see you later.

“When we grieve someone we love, we must learn not to live without them, but to live with the love they left behind”.

Published by Michelle

After a long marriage, 2 children (now grown), a separation and embarking on a brand new life, I have realised life is always a journey. I have made mistakes, I have hurt and been hurt, I have loved and I have lost and at times I completely lost myself and forgot the Queen that I am. As women we are the nurturer, the caregiver but sometimes we underestimate the Goddess within us and my journey has made me realise that when our crown is crooked, we need to adjust it ourselves and remember the Queens that we are! This will be a blog about what I have learnt, what I am continuing to learn and how we can help each other. I will talk about all things love and life and at times this will be controversial but life and love is never black and white but varying shades of grey. We live in a judgemental society and so many of us live our lives according to the expectations of others, rather than doing or being what truly makes us happy. I hope you join me on my journey and on my quest to find that Inner Goddess and we can learn from each other and we can discuss the judgements and societal expectations that hold so many of us back. It's time to seek our inner happiness!!

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