I would like to say “here we go again” as Sydney Australia goes into another lockdown, however, I appreciate that we have been incredibly lucky in comparison to other parts of the world.
Whatever your personal beliefs are about the virus itself and the vaccine, I think we would all agree the world has been forever changed. All the things we took for granted. All the little things we stressed over. Our naive thought that the world would be, how it has always been… didn’t the universe and Mother Nature kick our asses on that thought process!
A lot of us have taken on learnings and growth throughout this period and we look at the world through different eyes. Sadly many of us, it would seem have not learnt one damn thing. Simple things like there’s no need to fill your trolley with toilet paper, yet there they are mask on over their mouth only with a trolley full of the stuff.
Simple things like kindness. Simple things like gratitude. Simple things like how to wear a facemask (I’m not a fan of them either but they are quite easy to wear correctly).
I’ve spoken to many people with family overseas and the concern as to when they will get to see their family, be in the same room as them and hold them. Technology is great and certainly a blessing in these times, but it isn’t the same as being physically close to someone you love.
My heart goes out to everyone in this situation as it must be so challenging and at times frightening, especially when some countries are suffering far greater than we are.
People focus on remaining positive and that is understandable, but not at the expense of showing your emotions and sitting with your feelings. You are allowed to grieve and you should, because burying it all is unhealthy. We grieve all sorts of losses and the way of life as we knew it has gone and those struggling with being unable to see family is another loss.
Let’s not compare people’s unique situations with other’s and set expectations as to how someone should feel. We are all allowed to feel what we feel and nobody has a right to invalidate your feelings. Compassion is, in many cases sorely missing. Listen to people. Reach out to people. Be there for people. True authentic caring is such a gift and makes such a difference.
I was fortunate to be able to visit my dying father in law in hospital and spend some time with my kids, before this latest lockdown. So I am indeed grateful. I was able to visit the wonderful family who took my dog when I was no longer in a position to keep him and thank them for everything. We lost this beautiful boy a few weeks ago so I was able to farewell him and cry with this kind and generous woman who loved him as much as I.
I’ve not been able to get up the coast and see my unwell mum so hope lockdown doesn’t last too long, but I know I am still very lucky that I am able to see my family and my wish is that all those that are currently not so fortunate, do get that chance soon.
As I walked along the beach this afternoon, I thought a lot about life and about loss and the thing that has really helped me these past few years aside from my family and friends is the ability to be honest about my feelings and brave enough to actually sit with them. COVID has been hard on many because they find it too hard to just be-to just sit with whatever storm maybe brewing inside of them and distracting themselves is not as easy.
COVID is a clusterf*ck and it’s testing us all in one way or another. Toxic positivity is unhelpful and will have longer term issues with everyone just burying their feelings. The mental health implications are of great concern- so let’s be kind and hold space for people to talk and feel without judgement or advice.
Believe in the virus-don’t believe in the virus. Have the vaccine-don’t have the vaccine. Your beliefs and choices are yours but be respectful of others. Be compassionate and don’t ever think you know someone’s story or belittle them for feeling how they feel.
The world is far bigger than any one of us and cares little of what we think- so remove your ego and your fear driven projections and look around you and perhaps when we get to this stage we will have a chance of resuming a new normal and the world will be a more beautiful place.