What is a Friend?

Happy Easter friends! Thought I would do a quick blog on friendship. Now, I have a varied group of friends, some have been around for years and some are newer on my horizon, but all fill a very important role in my life. Most are straight shooters and do not hold back and honestly, I like that. Some a more subtle, some are a little weird like me but all of them are amazing people.

We have all been through our own life journeys and we are all perfectly imperfect. I am proud to say at 51 I have friends in my life that I met when I was 12 and we still see each other. I have friends I met as a late teen and we are still really close and I have friends I have met in just the last few years who are incredible people. Friends ranging in age from their 20’s to over 60’s. Straight friends, gay friends maybe even cross dressers or drag queens who knows?! Regardless they are all unique and I love them all dearly in their own ways.

The most important thing about friendship or any relationship for that matter, is the ability to be your absolute true self. Different friends often serve different purposes in your life but the one consistent thing, is being comfortable to be yourself without judgement. True friendship is unconditional and non-judgemental and I am so very grateful for the incredible people in my life. Don’t get me wrong they tell me when I’m a “dickhead” but they love me anyway!

Some of us have been through much laughter and many tears together. We have been through happy times and we have been through very sad times but our friendship never waivered and truly, that’s an amazing gift and such a blessing because some people are not that fortunate. I have had longterm friends that I thought would be forever in my life but sadly due to perhaps their own limited thinking or judgements they have decided to not continue our friendship journey and that’s ok. At this stage of my life I only want REAL friendship’s, one’s that can share my happiness and everything about me, including all my flaws and my imperfections but are also there when I am at my worst and can’t pick myself up off the ground because I would do exactly the same for them.

So to my friends I love you all. I love all your little quirks. I love that you care so much about me. I love your weirdness but most of all I love that you allow me to be me and even when I ramble on about the universe and spirituality you accept that is me. When I have a few wines and slip on a glittering light cape (looking like a Christmas tree) and belt what can only be described as noise from my tambourine, you just go with the flow (after recording it of course). When I trip over, fall over, spill something or simply hit something in my car you just know that’s who I am.

When I’m having a wax job whilst doing a work teleconference and my beautiful beautician just smiles in amusement because she knows, yep, I’m that woman! When you take your friend down back alleys in Bali as a shortcut and she is weary but follows you and you actually nail it. She looks at you in shocked surprise but had the faith and trust in you anyway, that’s friendship love right there!

When you take a sage stick to your friend’s workplace because we feel there’s bad energy there and start burning it and smudging the place and your friend does not blink an eye because she knows, yes she knows, this is who I am. When her staff sit back in confusion and amusement but she just matter of fact says “it’s ok she’s just ridding the place of its bad energy”. Now that’s friendship.

When you can sit in front of a friend, being totally yourself and speak your truth knowing that it’s safe to do so, that’s an extraordinary gift. When you can tell them something you have achieved and they are proud of you and when you can tell them something painful or difficult and they support you no matter what, you know you are a very lucky person.

My view is keep your circle small but keep it true and keep it real. If someone cannot see your value and the amazing person that you are, then they do not belong in your life. If you cannot be open and your authentic self then perhaps you are friends with the wrong people. Loyalty is the key!

Cheers to my soulmate friends, you are the “family” I have chosen as an add on to my actual family.

Enjoy what’s left of this long weekend!

Published by Michelle

After a long marriage, 2 children (now grown), a separation and embarking on a brand new life, I have realised life is always a journey. I have made mistakes, I have hurt and been hurt, I have loved and I have lost and at times I completely lost myself and forgot the Queen that I am. As women we are the nurturer, the caregiver but sometimes we underestimate the Goddess within us and my journey has made me realise that when our crown is crooked, we need to adjust it ourselves and remember the Queens that we are! This will be a blog about what I have learnt, what I am continuing to learn and how we can help each other. I will talk about all things love and life and at times this will be controversial but life and love is never black and white but varying shades of grey. We live in a judgemental society and so many of us live our lives according to the expectations of others, rather than doing or being what truly makes us happy. I hope you join me on my journey and on my quest to find that Inner Goddess and we can learn from each other and we can discuss the judgements and societal expectations that hold so many of us back. It's time to seek our inner happiness!!

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